Forgive and Forget.

 

In day today’s fast & hectic life we face many bad experiences. No one can escape from them. We have only two options left, either to react or ignore them. Though it depends upon situation, but still the best option is to forgive. Because God is all merciful and forgives us, we must in turn also be forgiving.

During my school days I was very much impressed by Mahatma Gandhi’s thought on forgiveness, "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."

Later when I read Lewis B Smede’s quote on forgiveness “I worry about fast forgivers. They tend to forgive quickly in order to avoid their pain. Or they forgive fast in order to gain an advantage over the people they forgive. And their instant forgiving only makes things worse. People who have been wronged badly and wounded deeply should give themselves time and space before they forgive. There is a right moment to forgive.”

For some time, I started thinking that Forgiveness is like a shield to hide our cowardice. Just to avoid the upcoming problems we choose forgiveness. Further some of my friends argue that forgiveness is not the only solution & it doest not always work successfully. Sometime it is better to take revenge or at least adopt tit for tat policy.

What ever may be the reason or situation, I believe that forgiveness is truly a divinely quality and enhances human personality.

Some say “forgive and forget.” Others say “forgive, but never forget.” No matter which path one choose, the act of forgiving is the beginning step of happiness.

I started learning act of forgiveness. My lesson was not about the act of forgiving others but to myself. To be able to achieve highest level of forgiveness we have control anger, hatred, jealousy and look at the world from a spiritual perspective. The act of forgiving is nothing but freeing ones self of negative energy.

Anger, hatred, revenge are the sign of weakness. It’s a moment where we lose our awareness. I can say it is like a temporary madness. These are the signs of our struggle with the present moment. In-fact most of the times when we are angry it is not the unpredictability, insecurity or other related situations which makes us angry, we get angry because of the fear to accept present situation of reality.

Recently during Valentines Day I went to the shop to buy gifts for my friends & relatives. The pleasure of exchanging gifts is thrilling but short lived. I thought that the best & everlasting gift to give & receive from our near & dear ones is forgiveness to each other.

If we are having a bad experience, let’s not think about the other person who has wronged us. Let’s think about your own self and adopt a course of action that is better for us. When we treat our self well, through the act of forgiveness, we are not doing in a way that exalts our ego. Rather, it is to release the negative thoughts and emotions that are preventing us from feeling good.

Forgiveness is always a beautiful & better option for everyone, it saves our precious time, saves from distractions, and saves from creating more problems. Forgiveness is an immediate & permanent solution to many existing problems. Learning to forgive is the first beautiful & powerful step towards a happy and fulfilling life.

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future."

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