All Weddings Are Similar, But Every Marriage Is Different.

 Last month city’s renowned charitable organization conducted around fifty mass marriages. They are doing this noble work from past ten years. I was one of the special invitee. Many politicians, social workers, entrepreneurs were present in a large gathering. Normally this is the right time for them to display their noble & social works. Anyhow thanks for the good works.

The mass marriage ceremony began with young men and women, from poor & middle economy class families tied the marital knot & ended with self praising speeches & achievements from politicians & social workers.

Mass marriage is very good initiative for those parents who cannot marry off their daughters for want of finances. Further mass marriages are fresh breath of air because it not only facilitate both sides in terms of spending but also do away with extra unwanted functions which otherwise are a burden to everyone.

Free marriage or Mass marriage programme, are definitely a useful & noble way to reduce the financial burden of the poor and make it an earthly affair. Due to today’s high increasing expenditures in marriages, even the middle class sections have also started evincing interest in it. It’s free and performed in an authentic traditional style.

During the function I met some couples & their parents & asked them what were the better things that attracted them towards mass marriage. Most of them were happy for financial benefits. I was little worried because many couples were not aware of responsibilities after marriage. Many just accepted the lucrative offers to get rid of financial burdens.

I asked the organizers regarding the success ratio of mass marriages. They were little worried & said they are not concerned after the marriage. It is left to the couples & their respective families.

During mass marriages many parents do not questions on essential aspects & even couples do not find enough time to know each other & fail to ask critical questions before marrying. Here the problems start.

Initially marriages start off nicely. Everyone is happy & ready to help the couple, their parents, other relatives, friends & things usually run smoothly. But somewhere along the way, marital disputes pop up. This is natural, but these can escalate to dangerous levels if not dealt with correctly.

All the couple hopes that they will live happily after marriage. But very few actually will. So what makes the difference is it lack of love or is it luck or lack of responsibilities?

Without proper preparation & lack of responsibilities, couples are facing many problems & challenges which ultimately lead to divorce.

Generally Indian marriages are mostly arranged marriages. It is said that it is not only the two persons who get married but also the two families who get married to each other.

We study fifteen plus years in schools & colleges & then find a job which suits us best in all the ways. But did we ever think the same about marriage. Did we went to any martial education programs or attended any useful seminars on marriage, at least to understand the responsibilities of the couple for the success of marital life.

Marital education programs that focus on the necessary topics like handling conflict, forgiveness, to accept & respect the families, to preserve and enhance fun, friendship, sensuality. & other related factors strengthen the relationships.

Before marriage the couple should feel fully confident in their commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges they may face. The new couples should learn the strategies to manage the normal challenges that all couples encounter in their relationships and marriages.

Mass marriages are highly commendable service to humanity & a great social work being rendered. But the welfare organisations, before going for free mass marriages should organize marital education programs, Marriage preparation programs & seminars from experienced counseling professionals designed to help couples achieve their marriage goals smoothly & successfully.

Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up.

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